This week we celebrated a big milestone at Button Central. It was the two year anniversary of Mr Button's kidney transplant. We celebrated with some together time and we thanked in a very small way, our super hero donor. We reflected, we gave thanks and we counted our many blessings.
Over the weekend, I've been thinking about Remembering (please note the capital R!). We will always remember the transplant anniversary. I think the Little Buttons will eventually remember the stories but perhaps the date and some of the details will be hazy. I know without a doubt that they will remember and thank our hero. Our closest family and some of the squillions of extended family and friends Remember. A good many friends don't because life goes on and the healthy, vital Mr Button becomes the new norm which, is kind of nice, too. What I have found quite surprising this week, is that many, many people who are not intimately connected with us, Remembered. They asked after Mr Button and his donor, they marveled at his excellent health and the changes this gift brought to our family, and they talked about organ donation.
It's not easy to share something so momentous as this. Sometimes talking about it can be difficult and feel a bit invasive. Sometimes you worry that people are tired of listening or may even be judging your choices and actions. Sometimes you want to forget about the icky stuff for a while. Then I Remembered that our talking about it has led many other people to talk about it - people who may otherwise never have discussed organ donation with their families and friends. Maybe someone will register as an organ donor because we've shared our story.
That would be grand, because, WE WILL FOREVER REMEMBER the good and great gift that our hero gave Mr Button. A gift given to one, Remembered by many.
Since my last post, the littlest buttons have turned four. It's an interesting age, full of questions, challenges adventures and new learnings - for them and for their parents! Sometimes, setting boundaries can be exhausting can't it?
When I was studying teaching, I remember completing an activity on creative ways to say "No!". I'm sure most Early Childhood teachers have done something similar. This week, My Creative Space is all about saying 'no' in a really clever way! You might be able to use this list in your parenting, when your husband asks if you've been shopping, when someone asks you to whip up a project or two or when you're tossing up whether or not to begin a new project. All I ask is that you use this list for good and not nefarious purposes (such as hiding excessive fabric purchases!).
A DOZEN WAYS TO SAY 'NO'
The LOOK - you know what I mean...we all have one. The one that says, "Go ahead and do that but be prepared for the consequences!"
NAME and TONE - Say their name and use the TONE that matches the LOOK (in number 1)
I'll think about that.
Say yes but mean no - 'You can do X after you have finished Y'.
Distraction - "X, can you come here and help me with this, please?"
Say hello! Just remind them that you are there and watching.
Is that safe.
Will that make Mum/Dad happy or sad?
What will happen if you do that?
What do you think about that idea?
Talk to me about what you are doing.
Is that a good choice?
I'm sure you have lots of other strategies that work. These are just some of the tried and true ones from Button Central. For truly creative pursuits, visit here.
P.S. I can't say any of these are a fool proof way of hiding expensive fabric purchases from Mr Button but I have had some success with #5 when used in conjunction with Grand Final Football games!
Is a bit crazy at present. Lots of orders to fill and markets to prepare for, but, amongst all that a special custom order for a handsome lad. Paddy's Christmas concert was on Friday. He wanted an elf on a yellow shirt...one of his favourite colours. This was a collaboration. Paddy drew his elf, I transferred the design to some fabrics he chose and finished it on the shirt. He was as proud as punch and there was absolutely no chance we wouldn't spot him amongst his classmates.
You can pop in here if you want to see some other creative spaces, I'm running a bit late with mine but masses of other folk were more organised!
Hey, I don't have all the answers. In life, to be honest, I failed as much as I have succeeded. But I love my wife. I love my life. And I wish you my kind of success.
Dicky Fox – Jerry Maguire
With all the end of year hoo-har that is happening about the place, I find myself reflecting on things that have happened this year, where I'm at and where I want to go. When I first watched Jerry Maguire, longer ago than I care to remember, this quote stuck with me. I remember having quite an in depth conversation with some of my cousins about what it is to succeed and the need to match our values with our measure of success.
I think, at this time of year, we can sometimes get quite caught up in really crazy measures of success...how many presents are wrapped, how many jobs are ticked off on the Christmas list, when you mailed your cards...IF you mailed your cards. It's good to take a minute and just remember what success really means for me. How about you?
We're walking a fine line at Button Central at the moment. Christmas is not so far away and it would seem the term 'Silly Season' incorporates the whole market bizzo which is happening about the place at the moment. As we head into a weekend of back to back markets, I'm trying to balance my desire for a clean and tidy house, my desire for sewing time and my desire to just sit and 'be' every now and then. We're doing OK at the moment. You can see the floors, no one is about to contract botulism or the plague, the stock piles are looking respectable and Mr Button and I are enjoying a quiet cup of tea on the lounge. I'd tentatively like to say we're on track. (Touching wood and crossing fingers as I type)
One reason is because I popped into this blog and had a bit of a read last week. Lots of very good commonsense ideas for navigating your way through crazy patches. I've opted to reinstate my menu planner, weekly organiser and I'm cleaning up one thing a day that bugs me...like a cutlery drawer or something along those lines. How do you keep the wheels on the bus when life becomes crazy and frantic?
During my recent stint of full time teaching, Button Central descended into a bit of a cesspool! No, I'm not just saying that...it really was quite a tip. I literally had to ask people to step over the boxes and market goods as they made their way into the house and finding them a place to sit involved wild sweeping movements across the couch to remove miscellaneous bits and then a fair amount of toe poking to shove the stuff from the top of the couch underneath the couch so the guest had somewhere to put their feet. I don't function well in mess...it makes me dither.
Yesterday, after a family outing I press ganged the Buttons into action and we had a major clean up, a bit of furniture reorganisation and a big toss out. Order restored, I lit the nice candles and cut some Lemon Myrtle branches for the vases. It lifted the literal and the imagined cobwebs and I felt ready for action so I tackled the Made for Me towel order list. I've cut out all but 3 of the names for the girl towels and tonight I'm starting on the boys.
I even squeezed in a bit of train track building along the front verandah with the two Littlest Buttons. As they were busy tootling along the tracks, I noticed a visitor in one of our trees. She'll probably move tonight but today she was lovingly spied upon and chatted to. Will is very fond of 'Karlas' so I'm hoping she picks another one of our trees to munch tomorrow.
Today is an anniversary. One year ago, this happened. There are no words big enough, deep enough or grand enough to describe the depth of gratitude and love we feel towards Mr Button’s donor. We think of her every day, she is always in our prayers and we love her to the moon and back.
You are our hero. You made this happy and healthy life with our Daddy possible. You are deeply loved.
That's what we'll be doing for the next week! I might pop in from time to time but only if the weather isn't playing nice. We're all very excited about the holiday...the little blonde headed, stompie wompie, real gone surfer boy, in the photo above has been dressing himself in boardies, sun shirt, goggles, thongs and sun hat since Wednesday! I think this is a delicious photo of him!
Words to live a life by - and without doubt, that is what she did. We've been very excited about Australia's first saint at Button Central and the little folk I have been teaching were awed and amazed to see their teacher singing on the steps of the Vatican as part of the celebration. He taught them a song based on this quote before he left. As I listened to them singing it, I couldn't help but think we have a wonderful future in store if this generation take St Mary's motto as their own. Challenging, too, if we are to lead by example. It's a challenge I like!
What a week we've had at Button Central. We had such wonderful plans for the weekend. I had Saturday and Sunday markets, Mr Button and the small fry were meeting me at the coast for a weekend of swimming, frolicking and relaxation. All the plans came unstuck and the only outings that occurred were trips to the doctors, pharmacy or local store! It happens like that sometimes, doesn't it? Mr Button decided to strut his stuff in a game of soccer with the kids and finished with a spectacular dive and a startlingly, sprained ankle! As my Mum would say, "It never rains but it pours."
Tonight, new antibiotics are making me smile, Mr Button's foot and drink are on ice. The only people awake are over 1m in height and the room is heavy with relief and calm. I'm about to tuck into my treasure for the week...my first mango of the season. As far as I am concerned, mangoes are a treat and a treasure and my favourite part of summer!
For some less edible treasures, visit Clare over here.
Well, I know the old ones are not missing but it has been a 'long time passing' since a new one appeared! What have I been up to, you ask? Well, we've recently acquired a new computer which has taken a wee bit of settling in. I have also beenbusymarketing and have tended to opt for the quick and easy facebook post instead of blogging. Sometime ago, I agreed to two weeks of teaching which started on Monday. YIKES!!! I'm not entirely sure what I was thinking when I said, 'Yes!', but, we're here now and getting amongst it! Incidentally, the teacher I am replacing is in Rome singing at the cannonisation of Mary MacKillop and I'm ever so excited for him, albeit a little worried as I am also taking his music classes and he's set the standard rather high!
In between my heroic efforts to dry washing and completing twin toilet training, I have been working on these Christmas shirts and also some Pink Ribbon Remembering Tees in adult sizes. You can order any of these via email or Facebook. My current favourite is Santa!
Please note: When discussing toilet training, I've used the term completed in a very loose way!
When we went looking for a new house, it was almost the end of winter and as we drove past our current home, a wallaby was sitting in the front yard watching us. I was sold before we even stopped the car! I made a bit of a pretence at looking about and kicking the tyres, so to speak, but there was no doubt that this was where we were meant to be.
Mr Button is a bird lover and watcher. We live amongst a gazillion trees and can always find something to watch as we sip a cup of tea on the deck. Today, my treasure is my view.
Pop over and sit awhile with Clare to find some more treasures.
Holiday time at my house. Lego creations that grow day by day. No rush to get out of the PJs. Story sharing. Bouncing on the tramp in between showers. Hide and seek. Trains and dolls. Dog cuddling, chicken feeding. Colouring and drawing. Some friendly first aid on a willing, but, slightly startled patient. Fun, fun, fun!
It's amazing how true this quote is, isn't it? We say it in a million different ways; Positivity breeds positivity; Karma will take care of it; What we think we create, and I am sure there are more. I'm going to use this as my benchmark today and before I embark on a train of thought I will decide if I want it coming back to stay with me. I spent last night lying awake thinking far too much so today is a new day full of great boomerang thoughts.
If you are a reader who is not familiar with boomerangs, you can find an explanation here.
This week my creative space is about how a little idea can stay with you and evolve over time. When I was a lass, I had a bit of a thing for Noah's Ark...I worked a few cross stitched pieces and collected lots of plates and embroideries on the theme and as I collected them I always had a notion to use them in a nursery one day. When I was pregnant with my eldest son, I made a Noah's Ark, patchwork, cot, quilt using this little guy to complete the nursery. When the twins came along, the quilt became a wall hanging and my little friend turned up in a canvas.
Recently, he has been revamped, texturised with chenille goodness and modified to be a Cute as Buttons design. I wonder what he'll look like in another seven years? For infinitely more creative doings, pop over and visit Kirsty at Kootooyoo.
When I wander through blogland, I find so many examples of this sentiment. I know when I make from love I am always prouder of the results...I even think the photographs I take in love turn out so much nicer!
Mr Button getting a bit of love because he found a new playground.
This post prompted my choice of quote for today. How loved is that little poppet? There's more love here, and here, and here.
What ordinary things did you do with love, today?
P.S. I've decided to be a bit more relaxed about using photos of my children on the blog. It'll be fine - won't it?
My treasure today came from The Metropolitan Museum of Art. I bought it when I visited New York about twelve years ago with a really, special, friend. It reminded me of the Royal Winton and Peony Ware style of pottery which I quite like. I love the colour, the texture and the size. It is perfect for petit fours at the end of a delightful dinner party or for some little pieces of fudge with a cup of tea. Most of the time it sits on the Precious Things Cupboard but I use it often and it is indeed a treasure.
Thanks to Clare for hosting this game. You can find more treasures over here in Clare's Craftroom.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Sometimes the most urgent thing you can possibly do is take a complete rest.
Ashleigh Brilliant
Do you ever read something that seems it was meant just for you? I did when I found this quote. Resting is a part of life that I think we sometimes undervalue. Did you know that Maria Montessori was the first educator to 'recognize children's innate need for intervals of stillness to nourish their inner peace'? (Wolf 2007, via our school newsletter) I think the universe is telling me I need to take care of my own need for rest and inner peace. How about you?